was randomly posing as Aunt Agony.. or rather, Aunt Maria *growls* and so LH consulted me on some issues to get my opinions and once again upon a impromptu trigger, i've gained yet another evolved theory that i've been struggling to put into words. hahahah

when do we know whom to confide and what to confide and how much should we rely on them and are the the right people to place upon these.. well haha it's a double edge sword. you can either call it a "priviledge", for others to share a part of yourself, or if not, "burden" for havin to let the person carry a piece of u that adds to their worries and emotional stress.

there are and will always be someone or a couple of people whom we perhaps, wished, that we could be really really really close with. share every single thing in our life with them. our gossips, all our ups and downs and wad nots. but can we? when will the day when the weight of what we tell them be too much for them to bear? do we know how to limit ourselves. normally we do, but there are people out there who don't. they end up being very very reliant and if not, cling to these group or that particular person for total emotional support. so much so, it might even get to a point where they RELY on that person to come up with a solution to solve his/her issues for him/her when seriously, it's not really the friend's business. so now you selfishly relieved yourself from the responsibility of decision making and burdened your friend with all your emotional stress and worries and wad nots.

end up, if u're friend is a very emotional person, i think the person will die young.

i once over relied on a friend for emotional support and totally allowed myself to sink into numb oblivion. till reality slapped me in the face telling me my friend is drowning bcos of me, then did i realise how much i love my friend and should not continue wad i'm doing. then i learnt to filter what needs to be shared and what is not required. or to be more specific about wad i meant with this, is to choose the right people to share certain information for your required result/answers.

you can't just have one friend to share all with you. everyone's receptive towards different things. some can offer you absolute silent support however, they may not be particularly effective at giving good advices, or some may be very analytically rational but not able to link totally with you to understand totally what you feel, is he/she irrelevant? No. of course not. they all have their pro n con influences in you. you just need to BE AWARE of yourself, your behaviour and seek out the right person to talk to for different topics.

in simple, we must delegate what we share to different people so as to not overload any one person with something they can't handle. stayin open minded and alwayz reflectin AND LEARNING is impt. you absorb but you don't learn is just as stupid. the truth never promised to be nice. it hurts most of the time. bear with it and you'll see light. that's wad's more impt that petty tempers of taking everything as a personal insult.

guess all these are based on ur heng suay one loh. u meet good/right people, u heng. u meet stupid individuals, u suay lo. so far i quite heng lah.

then again, these heng suay u can decide one you know!?

u can choose, if you open your eyes, to realise who r the people to treasure becos of their POSITIVE INFLUENCES AND IMPORTANCE IN UR CHARACTER BUILDING. but most people quite blind lah.

sometimes people overlook things. doesn't meant u shld condemn then. u can choose to let known so that now the other party can pay more attention over something they overlooked. but sometimes, bo bian u can't do it that way, then u dwell and sad o'er it oso no point, u filter wad u share so as to protect urself and be smart, talk to someone else instead.